Josiah
Robert Trapani
12/27/2014
Josiah’s Story really starts with
my first born. I’ll try to keep it short. We planned a homebirth but due to
high BP transferred to a hospital on his due date. Two days later I was induced
and he was born. I would call it a very traumatic birth due mostly to the
treatment of the hospital staff and DRs only one nurse “saved the day” by her
support and I feel the only reason we were able to have a vaginal delivery.
My second born was again transfer
to a Dr care, much earlier, due to high BP. Induced at 39 weeks. Had a
prolapsed cord and emergency C Then my 3rd was a repeat C at 37
weeks due to even higher BP. I knew I needed to get my health in order before
more kids. I found Trim Healthy Mama, lost 25lbs and got off my bp meds.
Then, we discovered we were
expecting. I was so excited but also super unsure what to do. Plan another home
birth? Plan a C-section? Try again with our past Dr for a VBAC? So I tried it
all. LOL I went to See my past Dr. I discovered he had never done a VBAC. Even
though he said he was willing, I had a hard time believing that it would really
happen. I went back to my midwife. She was willing to work with us even though
we were pretty sure we didn’t want to do it at home. However after a month or
so she recommended we find a Dr and build a relationship with them. Since I had
a history of High BP she would not be able to follow me the entire pregnancy
and would most likely have to transfer to a DR care anyways. About this time I also discovered ICAN. They
were great with helping with all the questions I had and finding a Dr. willing
to consider a VBAC2C. So here we started our adventure.
This pregnancy was the easiest of
all of them. I wasn’t sick, I didn’t gain tons of weight, I felt great! My blood
pressures stayed in good perimeters. Then came time for the Gestational
Diabetes testing. It did not go well. Because of this, I was now considered
high risk. With high BP and GD. However. I was able to keep all my numbers
looking good with only diet. My BPs stayed down as well. Praise the LORD!!!! All of the testing came with great outcomes. I
had a little bout with preterm labor at 34wks. A 6 hour visit to the hospital
stopped that.
Once I hit 38 weeks the Dr mentioned inducing by breaking
my water. I wasn’t too excited about the idea. But we talked about maybe at the
next appointment. Surprise, he had a family emergency out of town and wasn’t
due back to after my due date. I was fine with that thinking I wouldn’t have to
deal with the idea of induction. Well due to office mixup I was called back and
they really wanted me to come in. so Christmas Eve we went to meet a new Dr. At
first I did not like her at all. But I did have a really bad attitude about
going in at all. I felt she pressured us to induce too. So finally I agreed to
come in on Saturday. My mother in love would be here to help. That evening
while driving home from the grocery store I heard “The Glorious Unfolding"
by Stephen Curtis Chapman.
Lay your head down tonight
Take a rest from the fight
Don’t try to figure it out
Just listen to what I’m
whispering to your heart
‘Cause I know this is not
Anything like you thought
The story of your life was
gonna be
And it feels like the end has
started closing in on you
But it’s just not true
There’s so much of the story
that’s still yet to unfold
And this is going to be a
glorious unfolding
Just you wait and see and you
will be amazed
You’ve just got to believe the
story is so far from over
So hold on to every promise God
has made to us
And watch this glorious
unfolding
God’s plan from the start
For this world and your heart
Has been to show His glory and
His grace
Forever revealing the depth and
the beauty of
His unfailing Love
And the story has only begun
And this is going to be a
glorious unfolding
Just you wait and see and you
will be amazed
We’ve just got to believe the
story is so far from over
So hold on to every promise God
has made to us
And watch this glorious
unfolding
We were made to run through
fields of forever
Singing songs to our Savior and
King
So let us remember this life
we’re living
Is just the beginning of the
beginning
Of this glorious unfolding
We will watch and see and we
will be amazed
If we just keep on believing
the story is so far from over
And hold on to every promise
God has made to us
We’ll
see the glorious unfolding
What a Great reminder! I needed to
Trust the Lord. He would work this all out for HIS glory. I needed to rest
tonight (literally) and not worry. I needed to stop “fighting” what I felt I
was being pressured into. I needed to stop trying to figure out what it would
be like, what would happen. This was NOT the end of my story, just a new
beginning. God knows this is not how I wanted my births to go, but our story
was not done. Praise the LORD, it was not done! I listened to that song over
and over that evening.
The day after Christmas I tried acupuncture.
I’m not sure if it helped with labor, but it DID help to relax, refocus, and to
talk to someone I felt was “on my side” of things. Then December 27, 2014 at
8AM we were there for induction. Everyone was so kind. After visiting with the
Dr more I really liked her. (I think my dislike before had more to do with my
bad attitude) She seemed much more supportive of my VBAC2C than I had
originally thought.
Things really started happening
about noon. They didn’t really want me up again my blood pressures were going
up as the pain increased. Due to lack of being able to get up (which means I
was in a TON of pain) and to help lower my blood pressures. I asked for an
epidural. :-( it only worked on one half! I think that made it worse. I could
move even less and still in pain. My blood pressures dropped right away. After
two tries they finally got it to work but now I really couldn’t move, not one
tiny bit! Not at all like I remember. At
about 3:45 the Dr came in and checked and I was complete! I could tell from her
smile that nothing was stopping us now!
The nurse was going to start me
with pushing then call the dr when things got close, lol one contraction of
pushing and she called the dr. two contractions later of pushing Josiah was
here! The nurse held a mirror for me and I got to watch my first birth!
Amazing! I got to hold him right away. I got to watch Dad cut the cord. The Dr also took time to show us the placenta
and some of it’s amazing features.
One funny, the nurse and dr played
a prank on the next on call dr by not entering things in the computer till we
were completely delivered. So he was thinking he would have to come in for the
delivery at 5.
We spent a couple hours with Josiah before they did
his bath and checks. Such a change! There were lots of things that were not my
“perfect” birth, but being willing to give in little things got so many more
big things. If “We will watch and see and we will be amazed If we just keep on
believing the story is so far from over and hold on to every promise God has
made to us We’ll see the glorious unfolding”
